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6/17/2015

 
With all that was happening, it seemed like months had passed by but, it had only been 6 days into this ordeal and we still had no response from David. Jorge had asked for time off from work, and his job agreed on holding his position as long as he needed. One of David’s closest friends, John Thorne, had arranged for us to stay at a hotel across the street from the hospital. At the same time, my aunt Flor had decided to move back into her house, which she had been reconditioning and painting. I called this providence.

Through our new reality as a family, we experienced every emotion of anguish at different stages and levels: denial, anger, sadness, bargaining, and acceptance and repeated them over and over again. We sustained each other every second of the day and night. The rosary, which my mother, my sister Noemy, brother in law Hector, Jorge and I had started praying together every night for 2 years, brought peace to our hearts. It was only through prayer that we could continue functioning.

Ana Carolina had moved with David to Miami 8 month’s prior. They became the fun-hard working roommates you could ever know. They worked hard, studied for their bachelor’s and worked out together. They both radiated joy and success.

It became obvious Ana Carolina was in denial with David’s injury. She insisted in continuing to pay for his car so that when he left the hospital everything would be exactly how he had left it and life would continue. It didn’t matter what anyone would say – she was determined on taking this responsibility for her brother - her roommate. When uncle Mayito came to see David at the hospital he spoke to her and his explanation gave her the courage to turn in the car. At this point, a little bit of David’s new reality started to sink in for her.

Now we had to help her move out of the Bungalow-hut she shared with David. Eddy, who was practically a newlywed, was living in South Beach Miami at the time and without notice, his life was about to change again. They would have to move to an apartment in Coral Gables and his sister would become their new roommate. Eddy and his wife graciously agreed. They understood! There were so many new adjustments to cope with and deep inside, I believe, we all thought all this would be temporary. We packed David’s belongings, cleaned the hut, moved Ana Carolina and Eddy out of their apartment and into the new one in 2 days. Their friend Country had come to visit and became the mover hero. It gave us peace to know Ana Carolina would not be living by herself.

In the meantime, Fernando was at home in Casselberry booking interviews with artists and traveling as if nothing had happened. He removed himself physically and emotionally.

My sister Gaby text me to call dad whose doctor was sending him to the hospital because his health was deteriorating rapidly. I pleaded dad to get stronger so that he could travel to Miami. I asked him to pray as much as he could for David. He assured me not to worry that everything would be OK.


It is not easy or simple to scratch your plans or leave your comfort zone or inconvenience yourself for the sake of others but that is what we call love. Love is not self-seeking; it always protects, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love bears all things, endures all things (1 Corinthians 13).

(Isaiah 40:31; 1 Corinthians 10:13; Psalm 73:26)


The blessings through suffering...

6/6/2015

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There are defining moments in our lives which can either brake us or make us… listen, make us stronger, make us believe… make us who we are. We can embrace our reality and circumstances with its joys and sufferings or run away and miss the hidden blessings.

We learned that David had suffered a Diffuse Axonal Injury (DAI), which is one of the most devastating brain injuries. With the brain’s back and forth movement in the skull, the axons, (the part of the nerve cells which allows to send messages to the body), are interrupted. Instead of an injury in a specific area, the tearing of the brain tissue is widespread and the signal process stops. Functions such as speech, motion and even life supporting movement can cease and causes brain cells to die. “About 90% of survivors with DAI remain unconscious. The 10% that regain consciousness are often severely impaired.” (brainandspinalcord.org). David’s injury was serious and real.

In one of her morning rounds, the ICU Neurologist suggested I take pictures of David. My first reaction to her request was on her insensitivity. How could she expect me to take pictures of my son in a coma with all the tubes coming out of his skull, arms, nose and mouth? Did she not realize these were very stressful moments for us? How could she be so cold? I said nothing. The following day she asked if I had taken the pictures and commented how valuable they would be in the future to show David how far he’d come. How wise her proposition sounded. I imagined David walking again. There were no guarantees, there were no promises but hope was all I was breathing. The next days, I would take many pictures linking them to the hope of a future with our David.

The virtues of hope, faith and love you experience in life, leave a path in your heart and soul which guide you thru troubled times. How important are all the “little” sufferings we experience were we can practice these virtues. I saddened to realize how society promotes and constantly proposes to numb or avoid suffering as if it’s not part of living.

At home we love rainy days. We have learned that when we are sad, it’s an ideal moment to pray, to read or to write a poem. Being in touch with ourselves at the lowest moments can build our character and at the same time help us discover hidden pains which need to be resolved before moving on.  

We cannot fear to suffer for “suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope” (Romans 5:3-4). Practicing our faith has built spiritual endurance especially for long distance challenges. Prayer, Bible study, retreats, inspirational books and CDs are great spiritual workouts.

(Job 11:18; Romans 5:3-5; Romans 12:12)


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    My son, David Arroyo  and I, Ana Curras, collaborate together. This is our story. Our story because we are connected. We all are. When you hurt, I hurt, when you succeed, I succeed, when you have joy, I do too. It's in our design as human beings. Our story is intended to give hope, joy, encouragement and light. We pray to be inspired by our Creator, guided by Jesus Christ, moved by the Holy Spirit and accompanied by our Mother Mary.
    We believe.

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